Most days I think to myself, "How was I ever a mother? Most days I feel like I can't even take care of myself, so how did I ever take care of someone else?
I'm crying alot now. At the beginning (or the end, I'm not even sure what is the beginning now.) Maybe I just mean right after James died, I hardly cried at all. Now I cry several times a day. Sometimes in the car. Sometimes at home. Never in class, though there are several times that I have had to bite my cheek so hard to keep the tears from coming. You know what I mean?
Last week in genetics we were studying gene deletions. That's what caused the brain tumor.
This is a diagram of what Chromosome 22 looks like. (One part of the pair I mean). 22 stands for chromosome 22. q means the "long" arm of the chromosome. If it were on the short arm, it would be a "p" instead from the French word petite. 1 is the region, and 1 is the sub region. 2 is the band. Do you see 22q11.2? Do you see what a tiny part it is?
There are 1.092 genes located on chromosome 22. There are 32,185 genes located in all 23 pairs of chromosomes we as humans have.
I still cannot believe because of one tiny gene deletion my baby died. I can't fathom it. It still seems impossible. Out of the 32,185 genes that we know of, why did this ONE have to be deleted?! Seriously blows my mind.
Sorry for the genetics lesson. I just find this fascinating. Lots of cancers are caused my various gene deletions and mutations. Several brain cancers, some breast cancers and a host of other cancers can all be traced back to gene deletions. The gene deletions are usually tumor suppressors that make your cells stop growing when they are supposed to. The basic difference between a cancer cell and a regular somatic cell is that the cancer cell doesn't stop multiplying when it should.
So I guess I have been thinking alot about gene therapy and how do you stop genetics? It seems to me like you find a way to fix the genes, you cure cancer. Pretty much all cancers. Should be simple enough, right?
Ok enough about that. I feel like all my blog posts are my random end of the day thoughts that are swimming in my head.
This month is going to be a hard month. I always knew October would be hard. I keep getting this magazine in the mail- It's called like "First Birthdays" or something like that. I've received it 3 times now. Everytime I get it in the mail I get all upset. The other day there was a Parenting magazine, the First Birthday magazine, and a Pottery Barn Kids in the mail. Rough day.
My birthday is on Saturday. I remember last year I was just praying that James wouldn't come on my birthday- he could come any day but that day. Now I just keep thinking, if he had come early, (or on time), would I have been able to spend an extra week or two with him? Or would the tumor have taken him 2 weeks earlier? Or if he had never come out, could he just have stayed safe in my belly forever? Because I would gladly keep him there. I'd stay pregnant the rest of my life if that meant that no tumor ever came to get him. Which is crazy to think, I know, but it's that bargaining stage.