tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9155082621754325562.post1600105800164472363..comments2024-02-27T02:17:05.525-06:00Comments on Jamesie beats the tumor: Received rather than TakenUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger16125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9155082621754325562.post-81827121056193110222021-03-07T02:51:04.830-06:002021-03-07T02:51:04.830-06:00Nevertheless this is besides that an incredible sh...Nevertheless this is besides that an incredible share that marilyn and i certainly appreciated checking. It certainly is not day to day that i maintain the prospect to decide 1. <a href="https://www.fatehpharma.com/" rel="nofollow">Hair Care</a><br />Sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04118776104627782271noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9155082621754325562.post-85990699639651787382011-09-15T12:41:19.060-05:002011-09-15T12:41:19.060-05:00This reminds me of a song I listened to for 3 hour...This reminds me of a song I listened to for 3 hours straight recently. :) (Does anyone else still do this as an adult?) There is so much that we struggle to make sense of that we just can't understand for now. But I love the refrain that we WILL understand and know all about it...just farther along. Of course, the whole song does not apply to everyone's situation, and I have no idea what kind of music you enjoy. But here's a link to the song (you can even own it for free) if you'd like it. <br /><br />http://joshgarrels.bandcamp.com/track/farther-along<br /><br />Here are some of the words, anyway. <br /><br />Farther along we’ll know all about it<br />Farther along we’ll understand why<br />Cheer up my brothers, live in the sunshine<br />We’ll understand this, all by and by<br /><br />Tempted and tried, I wondered why<br />The good man died, the bad man thrives<br />And Jesus cries because he loves em’ both<br />We’re all cast-aways in need of ropes<br />Hangin’ on by the last threads of our hope<br />In a house of mirrors full of smoke<br />Confusing illusions I’ve seen <br /><br />And one day when the sky rolls back on us<br />Some rejoice and the others fuss<br />Cause every knee must bow and tongue confess<br />That the son of god is forever blessed<br />His is the kingdom, we’re the guests<br />So put your voice up to the test<br />Sing Lord, come soon<br /><br />Farther along we’ll know all about it<br />Farther along we’ll understand why<br />Cheer up my brothers, live in the sunshine<br />We’ll understand this, all by and bykeep growinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13108828624180772190noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9155082621754325562.post-62580487519148477452011-09-14T16:23:59.964-05:002011-09-14T16:23:59.964-05:00I think the best thing people can say is, "I&...I think the best thing people can say is, "I'm sorry." No matter how true or untrue anything else that someone might say may be. I want to wear a sign that says please just tell me, "I'm sorry and I'm here for you." And mean it :). My prayers are with you during this difficult time.Song_Lilyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13239878320226477479noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9155082621754325562.post-35817530777537794742011-09-14T16:13:06.750-05:002011-09-14T16:13:06.750-05:00Hi Kara,
I know we don't know each other, and ...Hi Kara,<br />I know we don't know each other, and I know our situations are very different, but I feel like sometimes you take the words right out of my mouth. I went through a time right after my son died when I was so angry at God. I was angry that he would "take" away my son. But God didn't take my son, and he didn't cause my son to die. I believe that God allows bad things to happen, but I don't think they are his will (and that is one of the comments that I hate too!). God is a loving God and he hurts for us, and he knows what it's like to lose a son. I was talking on the phone to a long time family friend, and she told me something similar to what you learned about your group. And that was a huge turning point for me. <br /><br />I think a lot of times people don't know what to say, so they say a lot of cliche things that feel like something they are "supposed" to say. I don't think they do it out of meanness or that they aren't being thoughtful, I think they just really don't know what to say. But, thank you for posting this so that more people know what is helpful for someone grieving the loss of a child! Your family is in my thoughts and prayers constantlyThe Kimmelshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02822076540485203983noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9155082621754325562.post-635818943325990402011-09-14T15:20:16.549-05:002011-09-14T15:20:16.549-05:00I love him and you.I love him and you.Andi Buncikhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17379902682801866899noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9155082621754325562.post-27561639896100975052011-09-14T14:35:02.814-05:002011-09-14T14:35:02.814-05:00Kara, Excellent post and insight. Thank you for s...Kara, Excellent post and insight. Thank you for sharing your heart.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14380009674979697126noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9155082621754325562.post-58292274769808402672011-09-14T14:01:30.867-05:002011-09-14T14:01:30.867-05:00Bellismoom -
Just a clarification...I'm not a...Bellismoom - <br />Just a clarification...I'm not an expert, but I believe that God DOES know when something is going to happen because He is all-knowing. Nothing surprises Him - ever. However...we live in a fallen world full of death and disease. He ALLOWS this. But he doesn't "kill" people. He does recevie them once they pass on. Just a thought. <br />AliciaAliciahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04486958122854037844noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9155082621754325562.post-79221365645047795772011-09-14T13:59:07.565-05:002011-09-14T13:59:07.565-05:00I am not fond of the cliche phrases that often acc...I am not fond of the cliche phrases that often accompany grief and sadness. Sometimes, I think, it's okay to say, yanno what, that was a really crappy thing that happened, it sucks! <br /><br />Losing James was a terrible thing, I cannot even begin to imagine how painful life is for you right now. I feel so honored to walk (type?) with you on this journey as you share James with the world. Seeing his crazy hair, the adorable smile and the love that surrounds him always brighten my days when I stop by your blog.<br /><br />Always praying for your broken heart and your arms that no doubt ache to cuddle sweet baby James.Gretchenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10814144282352173562noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9155082621754325562.post-26249553417690641512011-09-14T13:28:00.455-05:002011-09-14T13:28:00.455-05:00I agree with you. I don't think God knows exa...I agree with you. I don't think God knows exactly when something is going to happen and to who. If he did he would essentially be taking away our free will which sort of defeats the purpose of life right? I think he receives people when they are ready to be received and for some reason your James was one of them. He must have been one special boy!Bellismomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10062226743950656366noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9155082621754325562.post-87811852737240204762011-09-14T09:01:17.944-05:002011-09-14T09:01:17.944-05:00James is in your future and God has him. Jesus pla...James is in your future and God has him. Jesus plays with him and, someday, James will judge angels. You are a brave woman, Kara Sikes. A very brave womansamhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10234001307331850382noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9155082621754325562.post-91164522172068228592011-09-14T08:54:59.902-05:002011-09-14T08:54:59.902-05:00Oh how I love the first picture. There just aren&#...Oh how I love the first picture. There just aren't enough words to describe what a stunning boy James was.<br />I too loathe when people suggest bad things were planned and happen for a reason. I believe life is fluid, one moment leads to the next and builds, adapts, changes as we do. Of course who knows why this happened to your sweet James, because not once have I gotten the sense you took him for granted or were ungrateful. Senseless seems too trite a word, but it really is senseless to me. <br />And no one could blame you being short, there is no right or wrong way to grieve. We all do the best with what we have. <br />As always, you're in my thoughts and prayers.Mom to Woodchuckhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10364059019925186959noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9155082621754325562.post-32244522828652001142011-09-14T06:14:42.225-05:002011-09-14T06:14:42.225-05:00Kara,
Like you, I loathe the phrases "Everyt...Kara, <br />Like you, I loathe the phrases "Everything happens for a reason" or "It was God's will that (insert bad thing here) happened. I truly don't believe my God makes terrible things happen in our lives. I love the phrase that God has received James, however. What a fabulous homecoming full of giraffes that precious boy must have had! I'm continuing to pray for you and your family. xoxo, ErinErinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17754038184936652547noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9155082621754325562.post-63691106607019635052011-09-14T05:25:03.650-05:002011-09-14T05:25:03.650-05:00Hi Kara,
I read your blog every day and wonder how...Hi Kara,<br />I read your blog every day and wonder how you are. I agree with you that those platitudes are not helpful. Nor are they comforting. I am glad that hearing that God has received James rather than took him helps. You are very brave and strong. No one could or would blame you for being mean and feeling angry. You are very lucky to have a strong faith at this time. Thinking of you. xxxxFaux Fuchsiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17317677066408030053noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9155082621754325562.post-29881448086874182382011-09-14T01:23:16.619-05:002011-09-14T01:23:16.619-05:00thank you for posting this, Kara. I love the quote...thank you for posting this, Kara. I love the quote at the bottom and the pics of your beautiful boy! God bless you, prayers....LaurieLaurie and companyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08266550221653484734noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9155082621754325562.post-56603209253652424902011-09-14T00:14:22.532-05:002011-09-14T00:14:22.532-05:00Thanks for sharing where you are so openly and hon...Thanks for sharing where you are so openly and honestly. Writing is very therapeutic for most people. Keep it up. Don't let that stuff sit in there and fester.Nothing left Toulousehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02331474011592201722noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9155082621754325562.post-34404466624940549002011-09-13T23:38:08.650-05:002011-09-13T23:38:08.650-05:00Well put. I've always been leery of throwing a...Well put. I've always been leery of throwing around the phrase "Everything happens for a reason" for the exact reasons that you said here. <br /><br />Even Solomon says observed in Ecclesiastes that some bad people lived a long time with everything given to them, while some good people had horrible circumstances and died young. It's not Karma. There's no pattern, and there is no formula. Things just happen sometimes, and they're just not "good." <br /><br />But of course, we have hope in Christ...and that changes everything.<br /><br />Also - thanks for the healthy reminder of what "not" to say to people who are grieving. It's true we (on this end) all need to be a little more thoughtful and strategic when it comes to saying what we think is the most helpful thing. <br /><br />Hang in there - God bless. <br /><br />AliciaAliciahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04486958122854037844noreply@blogger.com